Coworker wife is cheating - Kawasaki Versys Forum
Off Topic Discussions For all of your off topic talk and just general B.S. Jokes, funny stories, etc...

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
post #1 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 08:15 AM Thread Starter
Member
 
King.Versys's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Austin, Texas
Posts: 692
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Coworker wife is cheating

I don't know how to help this guy. "Kevin" has been married 9 years and he finds out his wife is having an affair, for just over four years. He's torn up about it, but is trying to find out how he can make it better for her so she will end the affair. That's right, she is still seeing the other guy.

I'm lost at why he doesn't go to a divorce lawyer and get out of this mess. No kids.
King.Versys is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #2 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 08:31 AM
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Posts: 456
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
He is in denial, give him some time and he'll come around...

He is being the "dumpee" in the relationship, probably for her, the "dumper" the relationship has been over for a while. He must be shocked, unaware of how bad things were and thinking that he might still have chance to recover her... Like every guy that has been dumped.

If she is smart, she'll just string him along, he is just an idiot that pays the bills and sleeps in the couch. Like a pet, a pet that brings money into the house. Eventually he'll realize it or he'll continue being a doormat and there is nothing you can do about it, nothing.
Süsser Tod is offline  
post #3 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 08:46 AM
Member
 
Stud Muffin's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Mantua, New Jersey
Posts: 873
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Sounds like it's time for a road trip to Las Vegas!!
Stud Muffin is offline  
post #4 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 09:03 AM
Member
 
Arion's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: San Antonio, TX & Moosehead Lake, ME
Posts: 3,279
Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
I'll paraphrase something a comedian once said. Hoping a marriage in which one partner is having an affair will become a marriage in which the wayward partner becomes loving and faithful once again is like going to the fridge, finding out that the milk is bad and then putting it back and expecting it to be good tomorrow.

Unfortunately, no one else can solve "Kevin's" problem but "Kevin." Wish him the best of luck whatever he does, but miracles are very few and far between these days it seems.

Arion

"Plan? Plan! There ain't no plan."
Pig Killer, Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome
Arion is offline  
post #5 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 09:03 AM
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Waynesboro PA
Posts: 1,095
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
If you're not "the other guy" there's not much you can do about their marriage. The only thing you can do for him is be supportive. He will eventually ask you would you think he should do, then you can tell him the truth.

This would be a much tougher question to answer if you know she was having an affair and he didn't, that's a nightmare.
ray h is offline  
post #6 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 09:33 AM
Member
 
Marylander's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Frederick County, MD
Posts: 120
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Marylander is offline  
post #7 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 10:12 AM Thread Starter
Member
 
King.Versys's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Austin, Texas
Posts: 692
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
It really is sad too. Kevin had a good attitude and was fun to be around. Now, he is just crushed. His wife was really nice too. I never suspected a thing.
King.Versys is offline  
post #8 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 10:49 AM
Member
 
tmclean's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Sault Ste. Marie Ontario Canada
Posts: 88
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
I like the Vegas trip idea best!


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
tmclean is offline  
post #9 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 11:28 AM
Member
 
kballowe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: Near St. Louis
Posts: 918
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
I know a woman that's been married to the same guy for 30+ years.

She is always having a little affair with someone. I could probably name ten of them right now.

He can't be that dense. He MUST now about it.

I keep my mouth shut. None of my business.
kballowe is offline  
post #10 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 11:55 AM
Member
 
alba's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Seattle, WA
Posts: 252
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
I'm not sure a Versys forum is the place to be seeking answers to this sort of question.
I think he would get much better advice on a Ducati forum
Unhappy marriage or a Multi-Strada? Hmmm...
alba is offline  
post #11 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 12:29 PM
Member
 
weljo2001's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Norwalk CA
Posts: 15,501
Mentioned: 6 Post(s)
Garage
Take him to a strip club!!!!

2009 Blue Versys.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Sold
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

My Farkles...
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
...
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

My Video Channel
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

My Photos...
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


I'm not a Gynecologist. "But I'll Take A Look"

Everyone has a plan 'till they get punched in the mouth...
Mike Tyson

"Ya'll can go to hell, I'm goin' to Texas!"...Davey Crockett
weljo2001 is offline  
post #12 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 12:37 PM
Member
 
Stud Muffin's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Mantua, New Jersey
Posts: 873
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by weljo2001 View Post
Take him to a strip club!!!!
Stud Muffin is offline  
post #13 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 12:37 PM
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Palm Beach County, Fla.
Posts: 228
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
One of the things I like best about this forum is that no one here has had an affair and no one here is married to someone who has had an affair. What a flawless group of people!

2009 Versys
2004 EX-500
Holden is offline  
post #14 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 12:52 PM
Member
 
chadams66's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Garden Home, Oregon
Posts: 1,139
Mentioned: 4 Post(s)
can I get her number?

chadams66 is offline  
post #15 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 01:00 PM
Member
 
twowheeladdict's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 4,225
Mentioned: 5 Post(s)
Garage
Quote:
Originally Posted by Holden View Post
One of the things I like best about this forum is that no one here has had an affair and no one here is married to someone who has had an affair. What a flawless group of people!
Are you being sarcastic?

I will celebrate 30 years this September. Never thought about having an affair, and if she is, she is doing an excellent job hiding it. I guess many people enter marriage with blinders on because they are 'in love'. A guy enters a marriage hoping his wife never changes, and a girl enters a marriage hoping to change him.

Sad for your friend, and change is tough. There is no way I could share my wife with another man. I guess he has several choices, stay with her and have an affair also. This could work if she makes more money than him. Start hiding assets, drain the bank accounts, and move out. Kick her out. Demand she stop and go to counseling.

Thankfully there are no kids involved.

My Versys Travels:


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
twowheeladdict is offline  
post #16 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 01:16 PM
Super Moderator
 
fasteddiecopeman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Kelowna, BC - summer; Florence, AZ - winter
Posts: 17,319
Mentioned: 22 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by alba View Post
...I think he would get much better advice on a Ducati forum
Unhappy marriage or a Multi-Strada? Hmmm...

Ed
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


'08 V AZ, '15 V650LT BC
Ride to D2D 2013, June '13

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


Ride to D2D 2015, June '15

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


Ride to D2D 2016, June '16

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
fasteddiecopeman is offline  
post #17 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 01:39 PM
Member
 
Satanic Versys's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Fleming Island, FL
Posts: 153
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Multi what?

Quote:
Originally Posted by alba View Post
I'm not sure a Versys forum is the place to be seeking answers to this sort of question.
I think he would get much better advice on a Ducati forum
Unhappy marriage or a Multi-Strada? Hmmm...
Brilliant and priceless comment!

Just a "rambler in my Father's world."
Satanic Versys is offline  
post #18 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 01:55 PM
Member
 
weljo2001's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Norwalk CA
Posts: 15,501
Mentioned: 6 Post(s)
Garage
Quote:
Originally Posted by Holden View Post
One of the things I like best about this forum is that no one here has had an affair and no one here is married to someone who has had an affair. What a flawless group of people!

Must be a touchy subject for ya.

2009 Blue Versys.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Sold
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

My Farkles...
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
...
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

My Video Channel
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

My Photos...
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


I'm not a Gynecologist. "But I'll Take A Look"

Everyone has a plan 'till they get punched in the mouth...
Mike Tyson

"Ya'll can go to hell, I'm goin' to Texas!"...Davey Crockett
weljo2001 is offline  
post #19 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 02:07 PM
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Waynesboro PA
Posts: 1,095
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by alba View Post
I'm not sure a Versys forum is the place to be seeking answers to this sort of question.
I think he would get much better advice on a Ducati forum
Unhappy marriage or a Multi-Strada? Hmmm...

BMW forums, those GUYS are all way too close, I think they are all cheating with each other.

Harley Davidson forum.....Well, enough said.
ray h is offline  
post #20 of 26 (permalink) Old 02-13-2015, 06:10 PM
Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Cincinnati, OH
Posts: 578
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Offer support as best you can, especially while imbibing some truth serum.
Repeat as needed, but don't expect change until friend want change.
Repeat as needed.
Be prepared to lose friend if your support turns to suggestions.
Be prepared to have to face the fuc...g cheats smile sometime since she knowns you know.
Repeat as needed.
Friends are people we know everything wrong about but we still consider them to be friends.

rayj
2009 Versys (Mine's Green)
rayj is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on the Kawasaki Versys Forum forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in










Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Linear Mode



Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome