Im 29, 30 in April 2013. My current girlfriend is 9 years my senior(and I never let her forget it - LOL) She has a daughter who is 12 this July. The last 2 years have been really great and we'll probably end up hitched soon.
I've always wanted kids of my own...but for some reason now I'm having second thoughts. There are a few reasons.
A: her age. It's getting more dangerous for her to have children as she gets older, as her first pregnancy was high risk anyway due to high blood pressure she has had all her life.
B: for some reason about 10 years ago, she had herself well..."clamped". So this would require undoing at our expense in order to have a family.
C: her daughter. Even though she isn't MINE, she is very much a part of my life and I love every minute of it. Turning 12 is a turning point because she is considered an adult in the eyes of the court and can make her own decisions regarding visitation with her father. Her father is in her life also, and is a decent guy. We get along, but I don't respect him due to some of the choices he's made in life. But he takes his daughter when he is supposed to and treats her well and supports her so I get along with him for that.
So with my girlfriend's daughter being around and the age that she is, and the other things in the list it makes me wonder if I really want to start from scratch. In 6 years her daughter will be off to college and we could be "free" so to speak. I have a great job and no debt and some pretty good savings in the bank so I would love to only have to work part time.
Thoughts?? I mean, anyone here ever have a change of heart like mine? Perhaps the other direction?